Estimated reading time: 3 minutes
Lucy H. Pearce
A book to share with your daughters
Beginning with an imaginary journey into the red tent, a traditional place of women’s wisdom, some of the gifts and secrets of womanhood are imparted in a gentle lyrical way along with practical advice on preparing for her first period, choosing menstrual products, herbal healing, and celebrating menarche. It is a nurturing celebration of a girl’s transformation to womanhood.
Here is an excerpt from the second edition, published on October 23, 2015.
The Gift of Your Sisters
Do you have good friends who feel like sisters? You may already have found some special sisters who will walk beside you in life, honouring and celebrating your journey with you. One thing is sure, you will meet many more along the way as you move through your teenage years and on into adulthood. Take time to build strong relationships with your sisters, to have fun together and listen to each other. Be there for each other in good times and bad.
Girls and women can sometimes be pretty mean to each other. We can feel threatened by each other—and be bitchy and hurtful, especially in our teenage years, when we’re all feeling insecure. But there is another way of being together—which makes us all more powerful: sisterhood. In sisterhood there is no need for jealousy, because we know that there is no competition: we are all special, we are all unique, there is space for all of us, and all of our voices, our stories have value and deserve to be heard. It truly doesn’t matter what you look like, how old or young you are or what you can do: You are valuable. We each have gifts to share, lessons to learn, and experience which can help others.
To close the circle of this book, your older sisters, women of many years life-experience, want to share what they wished they knew when they stepped over from girlhood to womanhood:
I wish that I knew that it was all going to be OK.
I wished that I knew that I was beautiful—even though I felt fat, and untrendy and spotty at the time, photographs of me then show a beautiful, slim girl.
I wished that I knew I didn’t have to be tough all the time. That it was OK to be sad, to be quiet, to not have all the answers, and have people care for me.
I wished I knew that I had a whole world of like-minded friends out there to meet when I was stuck in my small, boring, narrow minded school—that it would just take us a few years to find each other.
I wished I knew that I really wasn’t alone. That although girls can be bitchy and mean, they are also wonderful support and that talking things through with them is the greatest gift in the world.
I wish I knew that too much sugar made everything much worse—my mood swings, weight, energy levels.
I wish I knew that there really was nothing to be embarrassed about, that we are all the same underneath—and all a little bit different too.
I spent a long time waiting for others to accept me—I wish I knew earlier that what I needed to do was accept myself, and then the acceptance of others didn’t matter very much at all.
Courage is not just bungee-jumping or driving fast, but speaking your truth quietly, and living your life the way you want to.
To not listen to those who wanted to bring me down—it was their own fear, their own anger, their own problem, not mine.
To trust my intuition.
To take time to rest.
I have learnt that tears are not a sign of weakness but of strong emotion. They are holy water.
Wherever I go, whatever I do, I’ll always be there—so I might as well start being my own best friend!
Lucy H. Pearce is a multi-passionate, creative mother of three. She is the author of numerous life-changing non-fiction books for women, including Moods of Motherhood; The Rainbow Way: cultivating creativity in the midst of motherhood and Moon Time which are Amazon #1 bestsellers in their field. Reaching for the Moon has been warmly received by girls and their parents around the world.
Lucy’s work is dedicated to supporting women’s empowered, embodied expression. She is the founding publisher at Womancraft Publishing. Former co-editor and columnist at JUNO magazine, she blogs at Dreaming Aloud.net on creativity and authentic living. She is a vibrant painter of lost archetypes of the feminine.